Disclaimer: I am not a doctor, personal trainer, nutritionist, or dietitian. I have no formal MD, PHD, or any voodoo degrees. Borrowing from Dave Ramsey, “I do have a PHD in D*U*M*B, been there, done that baby. If I can get the idiot I shave with in the morning to behave, I will be skinny and rich.” Furthermore, my “I’m with Stupid,” t-shirt points straight up to the head on top of this wide-load. I recently received a comment that I want to share with everyone because it is a great comment from which we can all learn.
Anonymous said...
Love your blogs, this one (Aspire to Inspire) was really awesome! It made me cry... I have tried many short fixes, the last was a lapband that I went to mexico for with money borrowed from my husbands' life insurance. The doctor there punctured a hole in my stomach, and after two infections and a surgery for a new port, (we didn't know about the puncture then) I had to have another surgery to remove the lap band (more borrowed money from other sources) and was told I couldn't ever get another one. All this mentally affected me (I realized it later, not immediately) and I have had a struggle to even try again to lose weight. I gained what I had lost back quickly. No other surgery options because still paying bills. This blog really hit home. Keep it up!
I have no idea who sent this, but whom ever you are please accept this cyber-hug. Oh my, I just realized when you add “cyber” to another word it sounds much more exciting and a bit naughty. Sorry, I am man and therefore the perverted cells sometimes go on their own journey. Much like being at a game in a large stadium and watching, the crowds perform the wave. Entertaining to watch, but difficult to properly time and it usually has to go until it fades out. A message to the beautiful anonymous, I have a naughty secret. Keep it quiet, keep it secret and keep it safe… “I have a failed lap-band surgery as well”. Oh, now look what you have made me do, I have listed one more of my life’s failures. Yes, I have debt from it and like you I became depressed as well. However, when I read your comment I can see two differences between us. One, I was somewhat prepared for a lap-band failure because of the Anthony Robbins tape of “If that does not work, then what are you going to try.” It also tells me that without Anthony Robbins you are on the right track and keep trying new things. Two, I discovered the biggest lie and the most covered up secret in the fight against obesity.
First, I want to share the largest pile of crap lie that I have ever been led to believe. Many professionals pound this lie into our heads every day. The pile of pooh is dinosaur big, just like Jurassic Park. Well-meaning folks from all occupations, Doctors, Nurses, Dietitians, Personal Trainers, Scientists, etc., all spread this lie. Oh, I have NEVER heard this lie come out of the mouth of a Chubbinator (my term for those of us that battle obesity). Here it is, and it is going to make you scream when you finally realize it is a lie. I hope that you are in a private setting. “You Are What You Eat”! This is absolute nonsense. There is a person I work with that has two chocolate cake donuts every morning with his coffee. His lunch consists of two fast food sandwiches, fries and an extra-large coke. He does not work out and he has not gained one pound in the past 13 years. Sure, he is a future heart attack and future diabetic but he IS thin. My ex-wife eats more sweets than anyone I know, never works out and after knowing her for 22 years and having two children, she is only 8 pounds heavier than the day I met her. Yes, they have some type of freak metabolism. However, they are thin, healthy people. We slow metabolizing folks can eat the same things once we get things in order. Yes, we will have to be more careful and have a better plan. However, when you learn the secret you will not want to eat junk very often.
I am not saying that you can become thin and eat like the above examples. I am saying that in my experience in fighting obesity that when I focus on food, instead of the secret I always fail and actually get larger. This usually leads to depression and to more destructive emotional high-calorie eating. This past holiday season (October 31st to January 1st) was the first time in 25 years that I did not gain weight. In fact, I actually lost eight pounds during that stretch. I attended more parties and went out to eat more times in that stretch than I have during the past 25 years and I lost weight. I did not focus on food, but focused on my overall health and well-being. I ate most of the foods I like. I did pass on the cakes and doughnuts, but man, I love cookies and I ate a few more of those than I care to admit. Yes, I planned the parties and eating out with my day’s worth of calories. It was not difficult at all and I did not feel deprived.
I can be an impatient man, perhaps my largest character flaw. My father is impatient, I am impatient and my son is even more impatient than I am. Perhaps, it is a male thing, but I have a brother I love that is extremely patient to the point of driving below the speed limit. You see, I throw the kids in the car and pedal to the medal. Park, jump out of the car, run into the theatre, and then shout, “Yes, we made it from home to the theatre in 94 seconds!” Love me or hate me, I want things to be done now and quickly. It took me a lifetime to gain weight to 430 plus pounds. I actually do not know my highest weight. I crash dieted for a month before I actually found a doctor’s office that had a scale that weighed over 400 pounds. My first weigh-in since I topped the 300 mark for the first time. I held my breath and… 430 pounds… I said to the nurse, “Wait and let me set these keys and my wallet down.” Patiently, she said nothing. I climbed back on and looked at the digital read out, it still read 430 pounds. Damn scale, I am sure it is broken because I know those keys weigh at least sixty pounds. The harsh, stinging pain of reality can be alarming. Therefore, how am I going to lose 200 pounds, when I am an inpatient man? The secret taught me that I am NOT trying to lose weight. Did you read that correctly? I am NOT trying to lose weight. I AM trying to live by design and pursue my dreams. Weight loss is a byproduct of living by design. Sounds corny, but when I reveal the secret you will see what I mean.
My wonderful, beautiful anonymous your world will be rocked and you will succeed without any weight loss surgery. Your husband is about to get a better mate than he ever dreamed of. You will love, laugh, live, dream and see the good in all things. This is the ONLY thing that has ever worked for me. It continues to work everyday, and I become more of the person I want to be each day. There are bad days, but this makes them less amplified and more easily forgotten. More people will want to be near you and look to you for guidance. All areas of your life will improve.
First, you must immediately apply this to your thought process. I borrowed it from my beautiful friend's blog page (Wendy). It is a quote from a movie. Trust me, you must apply this every day of your life. "Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, but today is a gift. That is why it is called the present." {Kung Fu Panda}
I wake up every day with the realization that this is it, that there's only one shot at this life and I can either enjoy the ride and live it to its fullest and to my highest potential or I can stay the way I am. ---Author Unknown
Wow... just wow. What a selfless, wonderful post for Anonymous. I hope she read it and realized how worth it she is... : )
ReplyDeleteVery sweet. However, it is anonymous that helped me.
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