"One of the most tragic things I know about human nature is that all of us tend to put off living. We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon-instead of enjoying the roses blooming outside our windows today." ---Dale Carnegie
It is amazing how easily our lives can become so off track. Divorce, new job, financial restructures, dating, not dating, and the list continues. The past eight weeks have been all over the place for me. I ventured into a new job and the training schedule was insane and allowed very little time for anything but work and sleep. Now that the training is complete and I have settled into the job, my schedule is once again becoming manageable.
"A well-ordered life is like climbing a tower; the view halfway up is better than the view from the base, and it steadily becomes finer as the horizon expands." ---William Phelps
Dating has been very interesting and I am not sure the word fun comes to mind. During my dating, I have encountered many wonderful women. There was one woman that really earned a spot in my heart, only to hear the words, can we just be friends. I certainly can do that and that is exactly what we have become. I find it odd that in dating when a person decides that they no longer want to play the game and have heard the “can we just be friends” for the last time; that someone suddenly appears that seems to steal the show and find a way to your heart. That is exactly what has happened to me and I find this woman has me smiling and laughing again. My children adore her and her children. How can I not like a woman that tells me the following when I suggested we take the kids and all go bowling. Todd, that is not a good idea, because I will smash you and have to pick up the pieces of your bruised and battered ego, blah, blah blah. Yes, she is a bit competitive and I love it.
My weight loss is back on track. Since the holidays, I would lose a few and then gain a few. I have been maintaining my weight. Don’t you love the drama and how I go on instead of just saying I am maintaining. Well, I need and desire to drop the last of these stubborn pounds and I desire to do so before summer. I am back on a regular schedule at work and I am once again able to prepare and be prepared with my food. The woman I am dating asked me what I wanted for dinner as she invited my children and me to dinner. I said, I am back on my program so I only desire a salad. She replied, Todd the only thing I ever see you eat is salad. :-O
"Few things in the world are more powerful than a positive push. A smile. A word of optimism and hope. And you can do it when things are tough." ---Richard DeVos
I hope that I will now be more stable and able to update and allow people to glimpse into the world of a highly confused man once again. I am feeling much more positive and confident in the future and my journey. I have a very good friend going through a very rough time in his life. I responded with a brief message. I mentioned that time heals or forms scar tissue over all problems in our lives. His response rather caught me off guard. He responded, you would know, you have lived it my dear friend. Looking back on the past two years, yes my friend I have. Time is the great healer and if you allow the Lord to assist, you will definitely come out on top.
"Optimism is the cheerful frame of mind that enables a teakettle to sing, though in hot water up to its nose." ---Source Unknown
"Every person has the power to make others happy. Some do it simply by entering a room -- others by leaving the room. Some individuals leave trails of gloom; others, trails of joy. Some leave trails of hate and bitterness; others, trails of love and harmony. Some leave trails of cynicism and pessimism; others trails of faith and optimism. Some leave trails of criticism and resignation; others trails of gratitude and hope. What kind of trails do you leave?" ---William Ward
Sunday, February 27, 2011
Monday, February 7, 2011
Dating is not for the Faint of Heart
"There are four questions of value in life... What is sacred? Of what is the spirit made? What is worth living for, and what is worth dying for? The answer to each is the same. Only love." ---Johnny Depp
I thought I would share a few of my experiences in the dating world thus far. I have to admit that I never liked dating, even when I was younger. I like spending time with that special someone; the process of finding that special someone is undesirable. Many of the women I have dated are tremendous, beautiful women and I am not worthy. They had no problem letting me know that and a few other comments along the way. I had one experience where I took an attractive woman out to eat and we began talking. I sensed that she might have a little anger bottled up inside her and asked how she processes anger. Thankfully, she said she never gets angry because that can ruin relationships. Then she informs me that she is a disciplinarian and has no problem shouting at her children. I ask, you shout at your children. Suddenly, in a very elevated and loud voice with a red face blasts out; did you not just hear me? I said I have no problem shouting at my children to get what I want! Everyone around us stopped eating, conversing, and stared in our direction. No, she has no anger issues at all.
Another experience includes a date where this woman sneezed constantly. This was no ordinary sneeze. It is a constant, extremely loud and frightening type of sneeze that made people stare. The first time she did it, I nearly had a heart attack. Imagine sitting in a movie theater and the movie playing. Suddenly, the loudest foghorn sounds less than two feet from your ear. Everyone in the theater laughed because it scared us all. I can overlook many things, including snoring and other bodily noises, but a decibel-deafening sneeze is a bit much for me. It is like someone blasting that foghorn when you least expect throughout the day and evening.
"Alas, how love can trifle with itself!" ---William Shakespeare
My favorite experience thus far is the woman that wanted to have sex less than ten minutes into meeting each other. Why is this my favorite? Because I am, a shy boy and it really caught me off guard. This woman had no idea who I was, what my back ground was, if I was disease free, nothing known and apparently nothing needed. I had heard stories of men having dates like this, but shy boy Todd ever having a date like that seemed unrealistic. However, in real world it was frightening. I hold intimacy as a deeper connection with someone you love. I guess I would not have done well in the sixties. Sex just to have sex and feel good, is just not my way. However, if I am honest I will say it was tempting.
In conclusion, I would like to say that I have had many dates with wonderful women that were wonderful experiences. Many said no to another date, which makes me wonder if I am being written about on a blog somewhere about my horrible habit or behavior. That is a frightening thought that someone would find me undesirable. Okay, that sentence makes me laugh. The whole reason I am dating is someone found me undesirable.
Dating and weight loss or weight reduction are very similar indeed. Whether you are a man or woman dating, sometimes it is such a great feeling to shed something you no longer desire. Unfortunately, it is not such a great feeling if you are the one being shed. Dating is fun and exciting with the right person and uncomfortable at best with the wrong person. The first meeting, the first date, the first kiss, the first everything has so much meaning and message that it can be overwhelming. Oddly, I am not nervous at all about this process. When I was a young boy dating, I thought I would die walking up to a girl’s door. Now, I just hope no one answers the door naked.
"It's not so much that we're afraid of change or so in love with the old ways, but it's that place in between that we fear . . . . It's like being between trapezes. It's Linus when his blanket is in the dryer. There's nothing to hold on to." ---Marilyn Ferguson
"Neither genius, fame, nor love show the greatness of the soul. Only kindness can do that." ---Jean Lacordaire
I thought I would share a few of my experiences in the dating world thus far. I have to admit that I never liked dating, even when I was younger. I like spending time with that special someone; the process of finding that special someone is undesirable. Many of the women I have dated are tremendous, beautiful women and I am not worthy. They had no problem letting me know that and a few other comments along the way. I had one experience where I took an attractive woman out to eat and we began talking. I sensed that she might have a little anger bottled up inside her and asked how she processes anger. Thankfully, she said she never gets angry because that can ruin relationships. Then she informs me that she is a disciplinarian and has no problem shouting at her children. I ask, you shout at your children. Suddenly, in a very elevated and loud voice with a red face blasts out; did you not just hear me? I said I have no problem shouting at my children to get what I want! Everyone around us stopped eating, conversing, and stared in our direction. No, she has no anger issues at all.
Another experience includes a date where this woman sneezed constantly. This was no ordinary sneeze. It is a constant, extremely loud and frightening type of sneeze that made people stare. The first time she did it, I nearly had a heart attack. Imagine sitting in a movie theater and the movie playing. Suddenly, the loudest foghorn sounds less than two feet from your ear. Everyone in the theater laughed because it scared us all. I can overlook many things, including snoring and other bodily noises, but a decibel-deafening sneeze is a bit much for me. It is like someone blasting that foghorn when you least expect throughout the day and evening.
"Alas, how love can trifle with itself!" ---William Shakespeare
My favorite experience thus far is the woman that wanted to have sex less than ten minutes into meeting each other. Why is this my favorite? Because I am, a shy boy and it really caught me off guard. This woman had no idea who I was, what my back ground was, if I was disease free, nothing known and apparently nothing needed. I had heard stories of men having dates like this, but shy boy Todd ever having a date like that seemed unrealistic. However, in real world it was frightening. I hold intimacy as a deeper connection with someone you love. I guess I would not have done well in the sixties. Sex just to have sex and feel good, is just not my way. However, if I am honest I will say it was tempting.
In conclusion, I would like to say that I have had many dates with wonderful women that were wonderful experiences. Many said no to another date, which makes me wonder if I am being written about on a blog somewhere about my horrible habit or behavior. That is a frightening thought that someone would find me undesirable. Okay, that sentence makes me laugh. The whole reason I am dating is someone found me undesirable.
Dating and weight loss or weight reduction are very similar indeed. Whether you are a man or woman dating, sometimes it is such a great feeling to shed something you no longer desire. Unfortunately, it is not such a great feeling if you are the one being shed. Dating is fun and exciting with the right person and uncomfortable at best with the wrong person. The first meeting, the first date, the first kiss, the first everything has so much meaning and message that it can be overwhelming. Oddly, I am not nervous at all about this process. When I was a young boy dating, I thought I would die walking up to a girl’s door. Now, I just hope no one answers the door naked.
"It's not so much that we're afraid of change or so in love with the old ways, but it's that place in between that we fear . . . . It's like being between trapezes. It's Linus when his blanket is in the dryer. There's nothing to hold on to." ---Marilyn Ferguson
"Neither genius, fame, nor love show the greatness of the soul. Only kindness can do that." ---Jean Lacordaire
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