"What Must I Do to Be Saved? It is impossible to ask a more weighty Question! It is deplorable that we hear it asked with no more Frequency, with nor more Agony." ---Cotton Mather
Okay, no more Mr. Nice Guy it is time to get serious and kick this extra weight to the curb. I have been through some stressful moments or days in the past 60 days and while I have not gained more than water weight, I have not lost any weight at all. It is amazing what stress can do to our bodies and our eating habits. In addition, my sleep habits have been horrible and I have been trying to do too much. This guy needs to learn moderation and balance in all things. I took on a new job within the company I work for and the training was intense and it is rush, rush, rush to get the training done. There were several all-nighters and then I get home and no sleep due to various events. In addition, I seem to have the habit of doing all my communicating very late at night. I communicate with friends, male and female, during hours that the majority of people are sleeping. This would not be a bad thing; however, my day typically starts at 4am. Staying up chatting with friends and flirting with women is causing me sleep deprivation. This all needs to be balanced and rearranged so I do not continue to ignore my exercise and weight reduction program. Now is not the time for maintenance as I still have those last stubborn forty pounds.
"Because of their size, parents may be difficult to discipline properly." ---J. O'Rourke
Therefore, since it is already Sunday night and it is nearly bedtime, tomorrow I begin anew. I am setting goals to exercise a minimum of one hour per day and get back on my eating program. I want the rest of this stuff I have been packing for two decades gone before summertime. I can visualize it now, cutting the grass and then laying back in lounge chair wearing a Speedo… Blech! Even I know better than that. Seriously, it would be so wonderful to spend this entire summer back at the weight it all began. Confident, energetic and doing things I have not done in years. This is going to be the most enjoyable summer in years. Now, I had better find me a summer playmate to keep me company. ;-) I hope that my new playmate likes walks and hikes in the hills where I live. I cannot wait to play with my kids this summer. They have never known their father at his regular, recommended healthy weight. This will be a summer to remember. Amazing how that works. Last summer was a summer we would never forget and this summer will be a summer to remember. It seems that father time is the great healer and equalizer.
"Adversity is the first path to truth; He who hath proved war, storm, or woman's rage, Whether his winters be eighteen or eighty, Has won the experience which is deemed so weighty" ---Lord Byron
"Well, I have lost you; and I lost you fairly; In my own way, and with my full consent. Say what you will, kings in a tumbrel rarely went to their deaths more proud than this one went. Some nights of apprehension and hot weeping I will confess; but that's permitted me; Day dried my eyes; I was not one for keeping rubbed in a cage a wing that would be free. If I had loved you less or played you slyly I might have held you for a summer more, but at the cost of words I value highly, and no such summer as the one before. Should I outlive this anguish -and men do- I shall have only good to say of you." ---Vincent Millay
Sunday, January 30, 2011
Monday, January 24, 2011
Life a Game or a Pain?
"If there is such a thing as a good marriage, it is because it resembles friendship rather than love." ---Michel Montaigne
Today a beautiful friend asked me a question about marriage. Now, everyone that knows me realizes I am an expert in this category. After all, it takes real knowledge in this area to get married, remain married for 22 plus years and then free-fall into oblivion through divorce. Obviously, I have no clue about anything in marriage. I can tell you what does not work, if that counts. My beautiful friend asked me if I could see myself married soon. Well, that really depends on a great many things. First, let me address the obvious when I consider this question. I would have to be in love with someone. Falling in love with someone is not all that complicated, it is finding someone to fall in love with you that is complicated. Second, a divorce for me has left me cautious in being remarried and even if I found love and it me, I can see a possible conflict in coming to terms with commitment. However, in the end, I am a romantic and I love having a best friend. I love the idea of having a best friend and lover, one where you can look into their eyes and feel their love and passion. I like the idea of having someone to share your innermost sacred feelings and having that person edify my feelings and me. I can never undervalue a passionate kiss from a person you love and the feeling of holding that person.
"In the middle of the road of my life I awoke in the dark wood where the true way was wholly lost" ---Dante Alighieri
I have been dating for several months and I have encountered several beautiful, brilliant women. Every one of them are far greater human beings than I and all praiseworthy. One after another, they have all thrown me back into the water, in hopes of finding a different fish. This is the part of my life that is a troublesome game that is not very much fun to play. It is not necessarily a pleasant game and at times seems more pain than game. I guess this all comes down to change and I do not care for change in a quick manner. Dating it seems is exactly that, change in a quick rotating manner. I just get comfortable knowing someone and sharing much of me with them only to find myself free falling into the water surrounded by all the other fish waving their fins to be noticed. Honestly, there are times I do not think it is worth playing the game at all.
In answer to my friends question on if, I can see myself married soon. If that one incredible person came along, rocked my world, and made me feel so deeply in love and that I can accomplish anything in my life. Yes, I can see myself married soon if that scenario played out. However, my reality is that I will be doing a great deal of swimming, waving my fins. Dating, like weight loss, or as a new friend corrected me, shedding weight, is not always fun or easy, but the end result can be very rewarding. Now, please excuse me while I start waving my fins.
"Long engagements give people the opportunity of finding out each other's character before marriage, which is never advisable." ---Oscar Wilde
"True Love has many forms. But my true love is her...and her name is B.D.C she is an amazing girl who I can connect with on many levels. She is a girl who I can tell everything to and not feel embarrassed about my flaws she can see through my imperfections and find me perfect the way I am and I can do the same with her I love her and if my love had to be compared to some sort of size on earth it wouldn't be compared to anything because my love for her is as big as the universe. I love you babe." ---Michael Henderson
Today a beautiful friend asked me a question about marriage. Now, everyone that knows me realizes I am an expert in this category. After all, it takes real knowledge in this area to get married, remain married for 22 plus years and then free-fall into oblivion through divorce. Obviously, I have no clue about anything in marriage. I can tell you what does not work, if that counts. My beautiful friend asked me if I could see myself married soon. Well, that really depends on a great many things. First, let me address the obvious when I consider this question. I would have to be in love with someone. Falling in love with someone is not all that complicated, it is finding someone to fall in love with you that is complicated. Second, a divorce for me has left me cautious in being remarried and even if I found love and it me, I can see a possible conflict in coming to terms with commitment. However, in the end, I am a romantic and I love having a best friend. I love the idea of having a best friend and lover, one where you can look into their eyes and feel their love and passion. I like the idea of having someone to share your innermost sacred feelings and having that person edify my feelings and me. I can never undervalue a passionate kiss from a person you love and the feeling of holding that person.
"In the middle of the road of my life I awoke in the dark wood where the true way was wholly lost" ---Dante Alighieri
I have been dating for several months and I have encountered several beautiful, brilliant women. Every one of them are far greater human beings than I and all praiseworthy. One after another, they have all thrown me back into the water, in hopes of finding a different fish. This is the part of my life that is a troublesome game that is not very much fun to play. It is not necessarily a pleasant game and at times seems more pain than game. I guess this all comes down to change and I do not care for change in a quick manner. Dating it seems is exactly that, change in a quick rotating manner. I just get comfortable knowing someone and sharing much of me with them only to find myself free falling into the water surrounded by all the other fish waving their fins to be noticed. Honestly, there are times I do not think it is worth playing the game at all.
In answer to my friends question on if, I can see myself married soon. If that one incredible person came along, rocked my world, and made me feel so deeply in love and that I can accomplish anything in my life. Yes, I can see myself married soon if that scenario played out. However, my reality is that I will be doing a great deal of swimming, waving my fins. Dating, like weight loss, or as a new friend corrected me, shedding weight, is not always fun or easy, but the end result can be very rewarding. Now, please excuse me while I start waving my fins.
"Long engagements give people the opportunity of finding out each other's character before marriage, which is never advisable." ---Oscar Wilde
"True Love has many forms. But my true love is her...and her name is B.D.C she is an amazing girl who I can connect with on many levels. She is a girl who I can tell everything to and not feel embarrassed about my flaws she can see through my imperfections and find me perfect the way I am and I can do the same with her I love her and if my love had to be compared to some sort of size on earth it wouldn't be compared to anything because my love for her is as big as the universe. I love you babe." ---Michael Henderson
Sunday, January 16, 2011
Increments
"I remember my father saying one word to me as I would walk out to school every day: 'increments.' Every test, every quiz, every conversation with the teacher, it all added up to the final grade, which would affect where you went off to college and the rest of your life. All those little bits and pieces added up to something larger." ---Wentworth Miller
I was reminded this past week from a dear friend (Helen) that weight loss and continued weight loss is about increments. The dictionary defines increments in mostly the “added” type meaning.
in•cre•ment
[in-kruh-muh nt, ing-]–noun
1. something added or gained; addition; increase.
2. profit; gain.
3. the act or process of increasing; growth.
4. an amount by which something increases or grows: a weekly increment of $25 in salary.
5. one of a series of regular additions: You may make deposits in increments of $500.
Mathematics.
a. the difference between two values of a variable; a change, positive, negative, or zero, in an independent variable.
b. the increase of a function due to an increase in the independent variable.
However, when we add pound of weight lost after pound of weight lost, we add increments of weight loss. My friend Helen emailed me saying she had lost 10% of her body weight. Do you know how incredible that is? If she did this, ten times she would no longer be visible! I joke, but seriously; how amazing is losing 10% of your total body weight. If you break the 10% increments down, she might be (out of this have no idea worldly guess) 20% or much higher towards her weight loss goals. Now, that little 10% is huge and Helen should be extremely proud.
I know that the stress in my life has weighed me down lately, in many ways, not just in terms of attitude and mental clarity. Since the holidays, I have not exercised and have had many stressful events. I have not been as watchful with the food as I normally am. I have put a few pounds on and because of the salty foods; my hands are holding water or swelling. Helen was just the ticket I needed to get moving again.
In the end, Helen discovered the secret to weight loss. Do it in small increments and have more good days than bad days. Exercise as much as possible, keep yourself busy, and out of the kitchen and fast food joints. Well done Helen and I bet it feels great and you did it… no one else… just you and your own determination. Helen, congratulations on a job very well done on something so few accomplish in life.
"Break any problem into, or make any changes in, small increments." ---Anne Grant
"The greatest accomplishment is not in never falling, but in rising again after you fall." ---Vince Lombardi
I was reminded this past week from a dear friend (Helen) that weight loss and continued weight loss is about increments. The dictionary defines increments in mostly the “added” type meaning.
in•cre•ment
[in-kruh-muh nt, ing-]–noun
1. something added or gained; addition; increase.
2. profit; gain.
3. the act or process of increasing; growth.
4. an amount by which something increases or grows: a weekly increment of $25 in salary.
5. one of a series of regular additions: You may make deposits in increments of $500.
Mathematics.
a. the difference between two values of a variable; a change, positive, negative, or zero, in an independent variable.
b. the increase of a function due to an increase in the independent variable.
However, when we add pound of weight lost after pound of weight lost, we add increments of weight loss. My friend Helen emailed me saying she had lost 10% of her body weight. Do you know how incredible that is? If she did this, ten times she would no longer be visible! I joke, but seriously; how amazing is losing 10% of your total body weight. If you break the 10% increments down, she might be (out of this have no idea worldly guess) 20% or much higher towards her weight loss goals. Now, that little 10% is huge and Helen should be extremely proud.
I know that the stress in my life has weighed me down lately, in many ways, not just in terms of attitude and mental clarity. Since the holidays, I have not exercised and have had many stressful events. I have not been as watchful with the food as I normally am. I have put a few pounds on and because of the salty foods; my hands are holding water or swelling. Helen was just the ticket I needed to get moving again.
In the end, Helen discovered the secret to weight loss. Do it in small increments and have more good days than bad days. Exercise as much as possible, keep yourself busy, and out of the kitchen and fast food joints. Well done Helen and I bet it feels great and you did it… no one else… just you and your own determination. Helen, congratulations on a job very well done on something so few accomplish in life.
"Break any problem into, or make any changes in, small increments." ---Anne Grant
"The greatest accomplishment is not in never falling, but in rising again after you fall." ---Vince Lombardi
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